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    Hi all! I'm glad I came across this! I am 28 years old with an 11 year old son and have a boyfriend that I have been with for over 5 years and live together for about 3 years now. I guess I can say that I have always drank pretty much since I was a teenager. I grew up in a household where there was alcohol and my father being an alcoholic. He was super abusive to my mom and myself , but then again a loving father when he was sober.

    I have realized that my drinking has progressed during the last 2 years, along with the boyfriend. We both know we drink a lot and if he has a drink so will I and vice versa. I know he doesn't want to drink during the week, but because I do....he does as well. I have been drinking every day for almost 2 weeks now and when I tell myself that I want to stop, my body tells me to have more or go to the liquor store (which is like 3 mins away from home). We do not keep any alcohol in our home because we know it will be gone right away. I have been late to work before because I don't wake up on time (days when I don't have my kiddo), I have missed work once because I drank half a bottle of Jack Daniels the night before, I have said mean things to my bf and he tells me that I treat him bad when I am drunk. We both like to workout and I also keep telling myself to just focus on working out to keep my mind off alcohol, but I fail to do so.

    Right now as I am typing, I can feel my hands shaking. I've stopped drinking once before for a whole year and it was not hard, but this second time around....I find it to be more difficult. Thanks for reading this.

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    Bless your heart. It's horrid but you appear to have caught it early which is something I didn't do. If alcohol affects your life negatively it needs looking at. Drinking every day because you feel compelled isn't healthy and doesn't sound like where you want to be.

    Have a good look on the main site. Maybe start to really consider what you want. Write it down. Discuss with your partner a no drinks on two days rule and work up.

    And, welcome


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      Welcome PooBear! You are very much in a welcome group in which we can relate. I myself can relate very much to your story. I have shared mine, and have done similar things under the influence of alcohol. I know that is not where I want to be and sounds like neither do you. I would recommend the book that HAMS goes by. I really like it and it has some very realistic advice. Mainly I think changing our attitude toward drinking and realizing that it is our choice to do so. Also, I am not sure about you, but I fall into the regret/do it again even worse scenario. That is such a bad cycle to get into and I have had such a hard time breaking it. I wish you the best. How can we help?